Cultural considerations when adopting internationally

International adoption can be a life-changing and rewarding experience for families. However, it also comes with significant cultural responsibilities. When adopting a child from another country, families are not just welcoming a new member—they are also embracing a different cultural identity. Understanding and honoring the child’s heritage is crucial for healthy identity development and emotional well-being. 

1. Understanding the Child’s Cultural Background

When adopting a child internationally, it’s important to research the country’s history, traditions, language, and social norms. Each culture brings unique values that shape identity. By learning about your child’s birth culture, you signal respect and a willingness to preserve their roots. Read books, attend cultural festivals, and connect with community organizations related to your child’s heritage. If you’re adopting from South Korea, learning about Korean customs like Chuseok (harvest festival) or traditional food like kimchi can help create a sense of cultural continuity for your child.

2. Navigating Language and Communication Barriers

Language is a significant part of cultural identity. Children adopted internationally may experience a language shift, especially if they are older. Losing their native language too quickly can cause a sense of disconnection. Try to maintain exposure to the child's native language, especially in early years. Bilingual books, cartoons, or a tutor can be helpful. Be patient during the language transition. Communication goes beyond words—non-verbal cues, routines, and emotional connection play a big role.

3. Addressing Transracial Adoption and Identity Development

Many international adoptions involve transracial families, where the child and parents are of different races. This brings unique challenges, such as experiences with racism, racial identity confusion, or social alienation. Talk openly about race and racism. Ensure your child sees people who look like them in your community, media, and daily life. Encourage friendships and mentorships with individuals from your child’s cultural and racial background.

4. Celebrating Cultural Holidays and Traditions

Incorporating holidays, music, clothing, and food from your child’s country of origin helps preserve their heritage. These practices provide a strong foundation for pride in their identity and create meaningful family traditions. Celebrate both your family’s traditions and those of your child’s heritage. Make it a joint cultural experience. For Example: Participating in Lunar New Year celebrations or Dia de los Muertos fosters a positive connection to their culture.

5. Considering Cultural Competency in Parenting

Cultural competency means being aware of and sensitive to cultural differences. Parents who adopt internationally need to prepare for lifelong learning and adaptability. Attend adoption-specific training and support groups focused on cross-cultural parenting. Talk with adult adoptees or professionals who work in the adoption field to gain perspective.

6. Seeking Out Diverse Support Networks

Adoption is a lifelong journey. A diverse and inclusive support system is vital for your child’s well-being and for your own parenting journey. Look for multicultural schools, playgroups, or religious organizations. Join online communities for internationally adoptive families. Adoptive peer networks often provide insight into common challenges and solutions.

International adoption is more than a legal and emotional process—it is a cultural journey. By embracing the child’s cultural identity, adoptive families can foster resilience, pride, and a deep sense of belonging. The goal is not assimilation but integration—preserving the child’s cultural heritage while providing a supportive, loving home.

The more families invest in learning and adapting to their child’s cultural needs, the stronger and more empathetic their bond will be.